Unbecoming

Everyone’s selling transformation these days, right?

• Three-day journeys to your highest self.

• Weekend workshops to total liberation.

• Magic ceremonies that promise to change everything.

But real transformation isn’t for sale.

It doesn’t come neatly packaged in an online course. It’s not waiting in your next retreat. It’s not hiding in the heaps of perfect art supplies in that Amazon shopping cart.

Real transformation is slower. It’s subtle. It’s uncomfortable. It’s purposeful.

Real transformation is a process of unbecoming.

Of meeting yourself in every mirror you tried to break. Of making different choices, even when you crave familiar patterns.

Creativity is the same way.

It’s not something you unlock in a perfect 30-day challenge. It’s not a formula you learn in a workshop. It’s certainly not about getting “better” or “getting it right.”

We don’t learn by collecting more knowledge. We learn by observing, enacting, embodying. We learn by being one with the process.

In my experience, we learn more by way of unlearning.